Relationships Conflict Is Unavoidable

Jesus Gives Us Enduring Wisdom for Resolution:

by Sister Lisa Myers

In the heart Conflict is an undeniable reality of human existence. Whether within ourselves, between individuals, or among communities, discord seems to permeate every aspect of our lives. For believers and non-believers alike, navigating these conflicts effectively is paramount to fostering healthy relationships and a more peaceful world. While the sources of conflict are diverse and complex, the teachings of Jesus Christ offer a timeless and profound framework for understanding and resolving them. The Bible emphasizes that God commands and expects us to resolve conflicts, no matter the challenge, situation, or circumstance, following His divine guidance and the example of Jesus.

The Inevitability of Conflict: A Historical Perspective

Throughout history, conflict has been a constant companion to humanity. From ancient tribal wars to modern-day political disputes, disagreements and clashes have shaped civilizations and defined eras. The Bible itself is replete with accounts of conflict, from the story of Cain and Abel to the internal struggles of the Israelites. These narratives serve as a stark reminder that conflict is not a new phenomenon, but rather an intrinsic part of the human experience.

Several factors contribute to the inevitability of conflict. Differences in values, beliefs, and perspectives often lead to misunderstandings and friction. Competition for resources, power, and recognition can fuel antagonism and aggression. Furthermore, human imperfections, such as selfishness, pride, and insecurity, can exacerbate tensions and escalate conflicts.

Given the pervasive nature of conflict, it is crucial to develop effective strategies for managing it. Ignoring or suppressing conflict can lead to resentment, bitterness, and even violence. Conversely, engaging in conflict constructively can strengthen relationships, promote understanding, and foster growth.

Jesus' Teachings: A Roadmap for Conflict Resolution

Jesus Christ, a pivotal figure in history, offered a revolutionary approach to conflict resolution. His teachings, rooted in love, compassion, and forgiveness, provide a powerful alternative to the traditional methods of retaliation and aggression.

Loving one another means putting the needs of others before our own. It means being patient, kind, and forgiving. It means celebrating their successes and supporting them in their struggles. By loving one another, we create a community of mutual care and support, where conflict is minimized and harmony is maximized.

 

One of the most radical aspects of Jesus' teachings is the command to love our enemies. In the Sermon on the Mount, he declared, "You have heard that it was said, 'Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.' But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you" (Matthew 5:43-44). This teaching challenges the natural human tendency to seek revenge and instead calls for a transformative act of love and empathy.

Loving our enemies does not mean condoning their actions or ignoring the harm they have caused. Rather, it means recognizing their inherent humanity and treating them with respect and compassion. It means seeking their well-being and praying for their transformation. By loving our enemies, we break the cycle of violence and create the possibility of reconciliation.

 

Another key principle of Jesus' teachings is the concept of "turning the other cheek." He said, "If someone strikes you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also" (Matthew 5:39). This teaching is often misinterpreted as advocating passivity or submission. However, a closer examination reveals that it is a powerful act of nonviolent resistance.

 

Turning the other cheek is not about allowing oneself to be abused or exploited. Rather, it is about refusing to retaliate in kind. It is about responding to violence with love, to hatred with forgiveness. By refusing to participate in the cycle of violence, we disarm our opponents and create an opportunity for dialogue and understanding.

 

Jesus also emphasized the importance of loving one another. He said, "A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another" (John 13:34). This command is not simply a sentimental platitude. It is a call to action. It requires us to treat others with the same love, respect, and compassion that Jesus showed us.

   

                           God's Desire: Love Without Bias

The Bible makes it clear that God desires for us to love Him and to love others without bias. This love is not based on merit or worthiness, but rather on the inherent dignity of every human being. God's love is unconditional, all-encompassing, and transformative.

 

When we love others as God loves us, we break down the barriers of prejudice, discrimination, and hatred. We create a world where everyone is valued and respected, where differences are celebrated, and where conflict is resolved through dialogue and understanding.

 

The Fruits of the Spirit: Cultivating Inner Peace

The Apostle Paul, in his letter to the Galatians, describes the "fruits of the Spirit" as "love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control" (Galatians 5:22-23). These qualities are essential for cultivating inner peace and resolving conflict effectively.

When we embody the fruits of the Spirit, we are better equipped to manage our emotions, communicate effectively, and respond to challenges with grace and wisdom. We become agents of healing and reconciliation, bringing peace to ourselves and to those around us.

 

Vengeance Belongs to God: Trusting in Divine Justice

The Bible teaches that vengeance belongs to God. "Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: 'It is mine to avenge; I will repay,' says the Lord" (Romans 12:19). This teaching is not an endorsement of injustice. Rather, it is a recognition that God is the ultimate judge, and that He will ultimately bring about justice.

When we trust in God's justice, we are freed from the burden of seeking revenge. We can focus on healing, forgiveness, and reconciliation, knowing that God will hold everyone accountable for their actions.

Living a Christ-like Life: Emulating Jesus' Example

Ultimately, the most effective way to resolve conflict is to live a Christ-like life. This means following Jesus' example of love, compassion, and forgiveness. It means treating others as we would want to be treated. It means seeking the good of others, even when it is difficult.

If Jesus, the Son of God, forgave, helped, loved, and shared the Gospel with others, we, as children of God and followers of our Lord and Savior Christ Jesus, are called to do the same. By emulating Jesus' example, we can transform our relationships, our communities, and the world.

Conclusion: A Call to Action

Conflict is an unavoidable part of human existence. However, it does not have to define us. By embracing the teachings of Jesus Christ, we can learn to manage conflict constructively, to love our enemies, and to create a more peaceful and harmonious world.

Let us commit ourselves to the path of peace, to the way of love, and to the example of Jesus Christ. Let us remember that hate hurts and harms, while love heals and helps. Let us strive to think on good things, to bear the fruits of the Spirit, and to trust in God's justice.

As children of God, we are called to be agents of reconciliation, bringing healing and hope to a world in need. Let us embrace this calling with courage, compassion, and unwavering faith. By following the wisdom of Jesus, we can transform conflict into an opportunity for growth, understanding, and lasting peace. God sees, hears, and knows everything. Nothing and no one can be hidden from Him. He shall judge all, and vengeance is His. Amen (so be it). HalleluYAH! (Praise God!—Yahweh-Hebrew; Jehovah-English).